09 December, 2018

NO to grand public signs of affection

Wow, that sounds harsh, right? "NO." OK, chill... Recently I've been in some mood for romantic movies, which, for me is all the time, but I actually got some time and sat down and watched few of those. Of course, I formed so many opinions. If you want to read any reviews or opinions on movies or shows such as 50 Shades Freed or The Vampire Diaries, you can find them all under the tab "TV reviews".

Some of the movies I really like have one flaw. They have that one scene where one person shows their love for another in front of million people. I can't express enough how much I hate it. I'm a huge romance fan and I love mushy things when it comes to relationships and I honestly feel like this takes away from the romance.
I don't have anything against showing love, but there's a time and place for everything.
There's a difference between holding hands in public and telling your significant other you can't live without them at a football stadium. Ever since I can remember, those scenes made me cringe so hard (and I never use the word cringe so you know I'm serious). Maybe it's because I'm quite shy and don't want to be in a center of attention so I know I would be SO embarrassed and uncomfortable if anyone did it to me.
You can never be 100% sure they'll respond the way you want them too.
I honestly don't know how people aren't scared to do this. I know you should take risks when it comes to love I guess, but it's already scary enough to do some things privately. Adding hundreds or millions of people would throw me over the edge. Imagine you're going to propose to someone, you're at a concert and you just invited your significant other to the stage (the singer is obviously delighted by the idea of joining two people and making a better show with it). How can you be 100% sure they'll say "yes"? You can be together for 10 years and happier than ever and some sh*t can go wrong in that particular moment.
You're both on the spot...
And now you're both standing there, in front of everybody. OK, Landon is proposing to Jamie (yes, I'm a Walk To Remember fan, sue me). She'll maybe feel obligated to say "yes" and will think about it more because if she says "no", she'll be the devil here and he'll be the poor guy left in front of all these people. Even though people don't know their story, they'll make something up and in case the love isn't returned the way it is expected, someone is going to portrayed as an evil cupid.
...and now I can't enjoy the other thing cause I'm freaking engaged.
But let's say everything goes right. Landon proposes, Jamie says "yes" at the Backstreet Boys's concert. Now what? The chances are Jamie is going to cry about this and her make-up will probably be ruined or she'll just look like a mess. Happy mess, but still a mess. You're also now engaged and super emotional and excited and you're thinking about a 1000 things and you're also missing the concert.
You don't know anything about love so you're completely wrong.
I could be completely wrong. If you've been reading this blog, you should know that I never had a boyfriend so I didn't have the chance to experience any of these. However, if I ever find one, I really want him to read this so he wouldn't do this stupid mistake. Haha. I know it all changes when you're with the right person and in love, but I can't imagine ever wanting to be in the center of attention.

OK, let's see how many of us are there? Who's with me? And who loves these grand love ceremonies?

02 December, 2018

3 bullsh*ts you're frequently told!

I don't know why this pissed me off the way it did, but I heard a quote in a movie and that sparked this post you're reading right now. World today is full of motivational speakers and quotes that are supposed to make you feel much better, instantly. While I love those, there's also a level of bullsh*t in them.
Now, I'm not saying we should be pessimistic, which I often am when it comes to my life, but rather realistic. This post is not meant to crush your hopes and dreams, but I think these stuff are needed to be said. Well, they're my thoughts, so here you go...

Money isn't important. How many times have you heard this? Or maybe "it's not the most important thing"? I agree it shouldn't be on the top of your list cause money can really change a person for the worse, but let's be real for a moment. Money is in top 3, maybe top 5, for sure. At least, it should be. Why? Money can buy you everything. Happiness too. Health as well. Stability in life. Hear me out. I feel awesome when I wear new clothes that fit me well. I don't need it to be happy, but it helps. Someone is happy with new game, watch, car, whatever. And money can get it. Money can get you travels, visits to fun park with your loved ones... As far as health goes, people with a lot of money have way better chances in surviving the same disease as opposed to poor people. They're also more likely to have regular check-ups. Of course, there are things money can't buy, or it shouldn't buy, but all I'm saying is money is pretty high on the list of needs.

Live each day like it's your last. No. Just no. There's no way you could live like that. If I knew I only had one more day or a week, I definitely wouldn't save money, I wouldn't go to college/work, I wouldn't worry about my dentist appointment, etc. Normal people can't spend their days traveling, eating out and laying on the beach 24/7. People have responsibilities that can't be put on hold, especially people with kids or family of any kind where there's not just one person depending on themselves. People that say this have to live in some kind of a fairytale. You can argue this was meant in a way so people would take risks and opportunities they get, but most still need to reconsider and realize their priorities and stability in life.

A year ago, you wouldn't even dream of being where you are. OK, this is totally individual, but I know it's bullsh*t for me. I knew exactly where I would be now because my life is ordinary. It's school - college - work. All of my friends are the same, I'm struggling with all the same stuff as I have last year and I still have worries about my future just like I did a year ago. I would love to have that life-changing moment sometime, but I also realize that there's a 99% chance that my life won't go in that direction. I believe there's minority that can say they had this moment, but for most people it's all day-every day routine. Especially people with ordinary jobs; they can't really imagine blowing up like some YouTuber or model or actor can...

Do you agree with any of these? What would you add to the list?