09 December, 2018

NO to grand public signs of affection

Wow, that sounds harsh, right? "NO." OK, chill... Recently I've been in some mood for romantic movies, which, for me is all the time, but I actually got some time and sat down and watched few of those. Of course, I formed so many opinions. If you want to read any reviews or opinions on movies or shows such as 50 Shades Freed or The Vampire Diaries, you can find them all under the tab "TV reviews".

Some of the movies I really like have one flaw. They have that one scene where one person shows their love for another in front of million people. I can't express enough how much I hate it. I'm a huge romance fan and I love mushy things when it comes to relationships and I honestly feel like this takes away from the romance.
I don't have anything against showing love, but there's a time and place for everything.
There's a difference between holding hands in public and telling your significant other you can't live without them at a football stadium. Ever since I can remember, those scenes made me cringe so hard (and I never use the word cringe so you know I'm serious). Maybe it's because I'm quite shy and don't want to be in a center of attention so I know I would be SO embarrassed and uncomfortable if anyone did it to me.
You can never be 100% sure they'll respond the way you want them too.
I honestly don't know how people aren't scared to do this. I know you should take risks when it comes to love I guess, but it's already scary enough to do some things privately. Adding hundreds or millions of people would throw me over the edge. Imagine you're going to propose to someone, you're at a concert and you just invited your significant other to the stage (the singer is obviously delighted by the idea of joining two people and making a better show with it). How can you be 100% sure they'll say "yes"? You can be together for 10 years and happier than ever and some sh*t can go wrong in that particular moment.
You're both on the spot...
And now you're both standing there, in front of everybody. OK, Landon is proposing to Jamie (yes, I'm a Walk To Remember fan, sue me). She'll maybe feel obligated to say "yes" and will think about it more because if she says "no", she'll be the devil here and he'll be the poor guy left in front of all these people. Even though people don't know their story, they'll make something up and in case the love isn't returned the way it is expected, someone is going to portrayed as an evil cupid.
...and now I can't enjoy the other thing cause I'm freaking engaged.
But let's say everything goes right. Landon proposes, Jamie says "yes" at the Backstreet Boys's concert. Now what? The chances are Jamie is going to cry about this and her make-up will probably be ruined or she'll just look like a mess. Happy mess, but still a mess. You're also now engaged and super emotional and excited and you're thinking about a 1000 things and you're also missing the concert.
You don't know anything about love so you're completely wrong.
I could be completely wrong. If you've been reading this blog, you should know that I never had a boyfriend so I didn't have the chance to experience any of these. However, if I ever find one, I really want him to read this so he wouldn't do this stupid mistake. Haha. I know it all changes when you're with the right person and in love, but I can't imagine ever wanting to be in the center of attention.

OK, let's see how many of us are there? Who's with me? And who loves these grand love ceremonies?

02 December, 2018

3 bullsh*ts you're frequently told!

I don't know why this pissed me off the way it did, but I heard a quote in a movie and that sparked this post you're reading right now. World today is full of motivational speakers and quotes that are supposed to make you feel much better, instantly. While I love those, there's also a level of bullsh*t in them.
Now, I'm not saying we should be pessimistic, which I often am when it comes to my life, but rather realistic. This post is not meant to crush your hopes and dreams, but I think these stuff are needed to be said. Well, they're my thoughts, so here you go...

Money isn't important. How many times have you heard this? Or maybe "it's not the most important thing"? I agree it shouldn't be on the top of your list cause money can really change a person for the worse, but let's be real for a moment. Money is in top 3, maybe top 5, for sure. At least, it should be. Why? Money can buy you everything. Happiness too. Health as well. Stability in life. Hear me out. I feel awesome when I wear new clothes that fit me well. I don't need it to be happy, but it helps. Someone is happy with new game, watch, car, whatever. And money can get it. Money can get you travels, visits to fun park with your loved ones... As far as health goes, people with a lot of money have way better chances in surviving the same disease as opposed to poor people. They're also more likely to have regular check-ups. Of course, there are things money can't buy, or it shouldn't buy, but all I'm saying is money is pretty high on the list of needs.

Live each day like it's your last. No. Just no. There's no way you could live like that. If I knew I only had one more day or a week, I definitely wouldn't save money, I wouldn't go to college/work, I wouldn't worry about my dentist appointment, etc. Normal people can't spend their days traveling, eating out and laying on the beach 24/7. People have responsibilities that can't be put on hold, especially people with kids or family of any kind where there's not just one person depending on themselves. People that say this have to live in some kind of a fairytale. You can argue this was meant in a way so people would take risks and opportunities they get, but most still need to reconsider and realize their priorities and stability in life.

A year ago, you wouldn't even dream of being where you are. OK, this is totally individual, but I know it's bullsh*t for me. I knew exactly where I would be now because my life is ordinary. It's school - college - work. All of my friends are the same, I'm struggling with all the same stuff as I have last year and I still have worries about my future just like I did a year ago. I would love to have that life-changing moment sometime, but I also realize that there's a 99% chance that my life won't go in that direction. I believe there's minority that can say they had this moment, but for most people it's all day-every day routine. Especially people with ordinary jobs; they can't really imagine blowing up like some YouTuber or model or actor can...

Do you agree with any of these? What would you add to the list?

25 November, 2018

Today: 25.11.2018.

Doing: shopping (there are still some great discounts here), DIYing some Christmas decor and cleaning my room
Mood: how can I be in a bad mood while shopping and preparing for December?
Favorite person: my mom - she went everywhere with me and gave fashion advice so I love that
Thinking about: which wrapping paper to buy and how to wrap presents I already bought and also about next week's shifts
Missing: my brother who is on a trip far away
Loving: that I actually haven't had a care in the world on my mind for the past few days
Hating: not having more money, but that's pretty obvious by now
New discovery: I found some YouTubers to follow which I followed years ago and then stopped cause I didn't like their content anymore and now I rediscovered them and I love it
Listening to: Eurythmics - I Saved the World Today (my bus driver was singing this the other day so it stuck with me)

How's your day going so far?

18 November, 2018

Why I wear black 99% of the time

If you've been reading this blog for some time, you know I have many issues with self image and I'm usually self-conscious about a lot of things, some being very normal and natural. If you haven't been reading it, I just told you a bit about my state of mind. There's more about it under the tab "Personal posts" or label "My weight loss" which was paused, but I'm going to write more soon.

So, there are basically 3 reasons why I love wearing black. First is I sweat a lot. I know sweat is totally normal and natural body response to lots of internal and external stimuli. However, I hate those sweat stains on me! Surprisingly, I don't mind them at all on other people because I know it's normal and I never wish to shame people for having them because that's not really something you can control. But when it comes to me, I'm the total opposite. I feel like I need to stop it and hide it. Sweat is visible on all colors and also white. However, it's not visible on black. So, that's one reason.
I always wanted to hide my body in my clothes.
The other one is my self-esteem. It's world-wide-known fact that black makes you look slimmer. I don't know how our brain gets tricked, but it is how it is. Since my goal is to look slimmer, without actually dieting or working out, of course, I tend to wear more black clothes. I used to wear all fitted clothes because I didn't want to add to my fat, but I now I learned how to style some clothes and what looks good on me so I can afford to wear baggy clothes too. It's usually all black, of course.

The last reason is just a matter of time management. I usually go for black clothes because they're easier to style. I can literally wear black everywhere and to all occasions. Wearing jeans and black top is my go-to combination. I'm actually pretty good with time management, but there are times I'm in a hurry or I like to concentrate on other stuff rather than spending an hour in front of my closet.

What's your favorite color to wear? I actually really like red on me, but for the given reasons, I don't wear it often.

11 November, 2018

Should kids earn their money?

This post was definitely sparkled while I was reading some comments on Facebook and realized most parents there were wrong. Now, I'm not a parent so you could say not to get involved in this and also who am I to give advice on parenting... However, I'm closer to being a kid than adult. I also know how I was raised and how would I act or feel if it was any different.

The first issue was: Should kids work and earn their money? Of course, we're talking about some yard sales, cookie sales, selling their drawings, painting someone's fence or clearing out the neighbor's garage; we're not talking about actual jobs. While parents think it should teach kids how to value money, I think it just takes away from them being kids. If, for example, a kid loves to draw, trying to sell those paintings is not a bad idea, but it could put a pressure at the kid and that's never good. Also, all of their friends would be in a park playing and this poor kid would be sorting old stuff in a garage.
"If they want something, they should work for it." shouldn't start before high school. Or later.
Another thing I saw was: I pay my kid to do some chores. Again, same as the above, I think this takes away from them being just kids, but this case is a bit different. Teaching kids they should help around is a good thing and giving them small tasks shouldn't be too difficult, but paying them for it is also wrong in my opinion. If it's about household chores, they should do it without getting payed. They're a part of the family too and everybody should contribute to chores. Nobody is going to pay these kids for doing chores when they grow up, so I think they would be pretty disappointed in how life works when you grow up.
They'll have enough time to be stressed out and worry about money. 
My point is: let the kids be the kids. Just that. I'm looking at myself and my childhood. I never got paid for anything I did around the house. To be honest, I didn't do much, almost anything, cause my mom wanted us to enjoy the play as much as my brother and I could. As we grew up she asked us to go to the store or take the trash out and we did it. No struggle, no payment. I don't know how things would turn up if it was any different in our house, but from today's point of view, I think I would resent my parents for making me think I had to bring money in the household when I was still learning basic math and how to write.
If you want your kid to help you with something, just ask nicely and try to make it fun.
Parents decide to have a baby or not to have one. If you do have one, or two or ten, it's your responsibility to take care of them. They shouldn't earn money for themselves at the age of 10. There's a whole life in head of them, they'll, unless they have super rich parents, have the chance to experience all kinds of money struggles and stress in general. Childhood is the only time when they can still believe in the good, that people are nice and mean well, that everything is unicorns and rainbows. Don't ruin it for them. If you can make it fun, like selling lemonade with their friends every once in a while, that's what I'd call acceptable. They need to have their friends and fun beside them.

What are your thoughts? Are you a parent? If yes, how do you deal with this topic?