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11 November, 2018

Should kids earn their money?

This post was definitely sparkled while I was reading some comments on Facebook and realized most parents there were wrong. Now, I'm not a parent so you could say not to get involved in this and also who am I to give advice on parenting... However, I'm closer to being a kid than adult. I also know how I was raised and how would I act or feel if it was any different.

The first issue was: Should kids work and earn their money? Of course, we're talking about some yard sales, cookie sales, selling their drawings, painting someone's fence or clearing out the neighbor's garage; we're not talking about actual jobs. While parents think it should teach kids how to value money, I think it just takes away from them being kids. If, for example, a kid loves to draw, trying to sell those paintings is not a bad idea, but it could put a pressure at the kid and that's never good. Also, all of their friends would be in a park playing and this poor kid would be sorting old stuff in a garage.
"If they want something, they should work for it." shouldn't start before high school. Or later.
Another thing I saw was: I pay my kid to do some chores. Again, same as the above, I think this takes away from them being just kids, but this case is a bit different. Teaching kids they should help around is a good thing and giving them small tasks shouldn't be too difficult, but paying them for it is also wrong in my opinion. If it's about household chores, they should do it without getting payed. They're a part of the family too and everybody should contribute to chores. Nobody is going to pay these kids for doing chores when they grow up, so I think they would be pretty disappointed in how life works when you grow up.
They'll have enough time to be stressed out and worry about money. 
My point is: let the kids be the kids. Just that. I'm looking at myself and my childhood. I never got paid for anything I did around the house. To be honest, I didn't do much, almost anything, cause my mom wanted us to enjoy the play as much as my brother and I could. As we grew up she asked us to go to the store or take the trash out and we did it. No struggle, no payment. I don't know how things would turn up if it was any different in our house, but from today's point of view, I think I would resent my parents for making me think I had to bring money in the household when I was still learning basic math and how to write.
If you want your kid to help you with something, just ask nicely and try to make it fun.
Parents decide to have a baby or not to have one. If you do have one, or two or ten, it's your responsibility to take care of them. They shouldn't earn money for themselves at the age of 10. There's a whole life in head of them, they'll, unless they have super rich parents, have the chance to experience all kinds of money struggles and stress in general. Childhood is the only time when they can still believe in the good, that people are nice and mean well, that everything is unicorns and rainbows. Don't ruin it for them. If you can make it fun, like selling lemonade with their friends every once in a while, that's what I'd call acceptable. They need to have their friends and fun beside them.


What are your thoughts? Are you a parent? If yes, how do you deal with this topic?

04 November, 2018

I'm more than my social media.

I don't think this is a new topic to discuss because ever since social media started, especially YouTube and Instagram, people have been trying to make a line between just Internet world and real world. However, there are still people that suffer cause they feel not good enough or people that just don't get who other people are because all they see are social media posts. I got few comments, not mean ones, just comments, from my actual friends that they never thought I would be a social media person, the one that posts herself so much. So, naturally, I have to discuss it here...

I would say most accurate representation of my life is Facebook. I have pictures with my family and friends there and there are like 99% of people there I actually know. And I believe my family and friends are the biggest part of my life. But there's also my education, my trips, stuff I like which show my interests... However, over the years I learned not to post every single thing so, of course, there's a lot more going on in my head and in my life than what I post there.

...so Twitter is already a weird platform that shows a whole other part of my life, but not all of it.

If you look at my Instagram, I'm narcissistic bit*h that loves herself to the point I'm arranging photoshoots to look at my self. There's some truth to this, explained in the post First, let me take a selfie..., but that's not he whole story. What I don't show there is the fact that I've been hanging out with my friends for hours prior to that picture being taken and I haven't looked at my phone once while I was with them. Not all of my friends are OK with their pictures being online so I just don't post them at all. My family too. Especially because Instagram is a lot more different from Facebook in terms of which people are following me (and who I follow too, of course). Also, I don't post my messy hair, me being a wreck when the alarm goes off at 5 a.m., me being scared I'm going to mess up at work, etc.

Another platform I'm on is Twitter. I opened that because of my blogs and now I'm glad I did cause I met some awesome people there. However, if you just look at my profile, it's usually blog promotion or random stuff from my life. Just random thoughts. It's also quite accurate, but there are no friends there, events I visited, family at all. Also, no one in real life knows about my blogs so Twitter is already a weird platform that shows a whole other part of my life, but not all of it.

Also, I always post what I love or like, but I tailor it for the "audience". I know my friends aren't into nails so I don't post them on Facebook, only the manicures I'm extremely proud of. There are a lot of examples, but I'm going to make this even longer post.


Do you worry that you sometimes portray yourself as something you're not really? Are you worried what people think of you based on your profiles?

See you next Sunday ♥

28 October, 2018

Why not having Netflix is a good thing

I'm not sure when Netflix became such a huge thing, but it's definitely out there now. It seems great, there are tons of movies and TV shows that you maybe would not watch ever, but are great or just great for background noise when you're at home. Netflix in my country is not a big thing. Not as big as in the UK or USA I would say. I know it's definitely here because of the young generations influenced by these two countries and the Internet and YouTube... However, I don't think older people, as in my parent's age, even know what Netflix is.

My family, including me of course, doesn't use Netflix. I know some of my friends do, but not me. There are times when I wish I could watch some TV show that's the biggest deal right now, but I never actually got the urge to install/buy it. With today's Internet, I don't have the need. There are sites that provide us with all these shows and most movies. For other, there's TV and cinema.

If I had Netflix I think the rest of my life would suffer.

I'm quite big TV show addict. I usually wait till the show has ended completely or so it has at least few seasons done until I start watching it cause I binge watch everything. And by binge watch I mean watching 10 episodes a day if I can. I'm also late with everything because of this. I started watching The Vampire Diaries when they were doing 4th season I think, Gossip Girl when they were on the last one and so on. However, I don't care. There are definitely shows I've been watching from the beginning and watch one episode a week, but that's usually not my style.

Now, how does Netflix fit into this? If I had Netflix I think the rest of my life would suffer. This now sounds like I have no control of my life which is totally not true, but watching TV shows is a big love of mine and I know I would be spending more time in front of the TV. I also don't go after the hype when the world goes crazy, like for example, for Game of Thrones or Riverdale (which I would only watch to see Luke Perry). Maybe that's why I don't miss Netflix as much. I can always find shows I like to watch somewhere online.

For me personally, I don't think I'll ever need Netflix. I don't even want it. There's so much I do on my laptop, Internet in general and on TV that I "lose" enough time. I don't need another reason or a 100 new shows to watch to stay inside. Haha. I wonder if so many people have it cause it's cool and new and you just have to have it or they actually really wanted it/needed it.


What are your thoughts? Do you have Netflix? Why? Also, recommend me some TV shows to watch! Haha!

See you next Sunday ♥

21 October, 2018

When there's too much bad sh*t in short time

Note: This post was written a long time ago. I wrote the skeleton of it and couldn't actually get my thoughts together and words to explain everything so I just left it like this. Even now, I don't know where I was going with this, but I'm giving you my raw, unedited thoughts.

Hey. Today's post is going to be about being sick, in hospital and dying so if you can't read about those stuff, stop now. OK, so...
A lot has happened regarding these topics in very short period of time, somewhere around a year. I know a year sounds like a long time, but when you have to deal with the above, whole life isn't enough. You also have to know that I'm overly emotional person when it comes to strong feelings and serious situations like this.
My dad's friend, whom I really liked and considered more as an uncle when I was younger, has passed away just few weeks after finding out he has some, obviously deadly, disease. This really messed me up because I thought about him every time I listened to one band as we were always listening to them when he came over. I somehow always thought he would be here forever and we would still have some of our inside jokes. I still think about him a lot, more than anyone expects or thinks I do.
In January of 2015 I wrote about how my teacher died (you can read about that here) and how it messed me up pretty bad. In the beginning of this year my grandma went to hospital. It was a routine surgery, but we were still very worried. Not long after her hospital visit, my grandpa had a stroke and he was in a pretty bad condition. He, thankfully, got out after few months of therapy. He's still not OK, and we know he'll never be fully recovered, but I'm just happy to have him back. And let me just tell you it's really hard being around him and knowing he's only he half of a man he used to be. He's also really struggling with all of this so it's even harder.
Next, one of my best friends ended up in the hospital. Again, it was a routine surgery and he is fine, but having to call paramedics in the middle of the night would have anybody nervous. Now I found out his mom is in the hospital. She'll be OK, definitely, but it's hard on him so it's hard on me too.
Few weeks ago, one of my best friend's grandma passed away. She was old and sick for quite a long time, but it still took me by surprise for some reason. A whole one life, really close to me, is now gone. Few months ago we found out that my brother's best friend, and my very good friend's mother had cancer and, although she was taking medications and doing everything she was supposed to do by the doctors, she was really bad and passed away. She was only 50 years old. His grandpa, his mother's father, passed away today.
I'm not sure how to end this. I don't even have a point to all of this. I just needed to share it with the world, I guess. I don't know. I wanna end this with somehow positive thinking to cherish every moment, with every person you care about.

Feel free to share any story like this if you want to. Also, if you have any words of comfort or motivation, share those as well...

See you next Sunday ♥

14 October, 2018

The Fall Tag by Hailey

No, Hailey, I won't call it 'autumn' cause we say 'fall' here and 'autumn' is actually harder to pronounce. Haha. If you don't know what I'm talking about, Hailey from the blog The Undateable Girl's Diary made her own tag post The Fall Tag with her own questions.

She knows I love tag posts so I'm, of course, tagged to answer her questions. Also, since I'm doing 'fall favorites' post on my other blog, tag is written here. For once, I won't tag anyone in particular, but if you like this idea, definitely leave links to your posts in the comments and tag the lovely Hailey so we thank her for her effort in making this. There are 10 questions so let's go.